Dear New Momma
As you begin this wild ride called Motherhood, there is an unending amount of books you can read, podcasts you can listen to, and “insta-moms” you can follow. But I wanted to share a little bit from the best book you can turn to in any season of life. Romans chapter 12 outlines the “marks of a true Christian” and right in the middle of the chapter you’ll find a small but mighty verse. Let’s call it the “HOW TO BE A MOM” verse. Romans 12:12 says, “rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer”.
REJOICE IN HOPE.
It’s so easy to get lost in the diapers, messes, tears, and milestones of a new baby. Eventually, as baby grows, your lives will be full of playdates, then school, then sports and activities, all while learning how to discipline and guide your child. You’ll look again to parenting books, to what other moms are doing, and you’ll google the craziest things in the middle of the night. It can get overwhelming and all-consuming very quickly. You’ll probably find yourself thinking, “Is this all I am anymore?” At first, a milk-machine, then a maid, then a chauffeur. You might feel like you’ve lost your identity and your individuality. But through all of this, let me encourage you to rejoice in hope. Rejoice means to “experience joy”. And WHO is your hope? Jesus. But the only way to experience joy in Jesus is to understand who you are because of who He is. Before the creation of the earth, God knew that Jesus would hang on that cross and take death upon Himself so that YOU, who wouldn’t even be born for a couple thousand years, could be restored to a relationship with Him. You have been CALLED into motherhood, but you were CREATED to be a daughter of the Most High King, who brings Him endless glory. And you can rejoice in all of the messiness of mom life if you constantly look to the source of your purpose and the provider of your hope.
BE PATIENT IN TRIBULATION.
You already know that you will face trials in this life. And I’m sure you can imagine the difficulties of motherhood. Some are simpler, like diaper blowouts and temper tantrums. Some are harder, like illness and rebellion. There is a reason patience is a fruit of the Spirit. It’s a gift to us because it doesn’t come naturally. But as you grow in your imitation of God and obedience to His Word, patience will come easier. As a woman, you’re built with the capacity to be a mother, but as a woman of faith, you’re given the characteristics that make a godly mother. I once read that “distinctly Christian mothering is done from a posture of weakness and dependence.” I know me telling you that you will be weak and dependent isn’t the most encouraging, but I hope it points you to your utmost strength. His strength. Seek holy patience as you hear “mom” for the thousandth time. Seek holy patience as your little one discovers how to express emotions. Seek holy patience as they practice independence as a teen. Whether your tribulations are small and frustrating or they’re big and terrifying, the Lord will provide you with the patience to endure.
BE CONSTANT IN PRAYER.
The final step is the step that ties it all together. Living in a constant state of prayer keeps you connected to the bigger picture- that you were created to glorify God and point others to Him, reminding you of your purpose and your hope- and it keeps you from blowing the smaller things out of proportion, allowing for patience and perseverance. Prayer is your lifeline when you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s your peace when you’re feeling frazzled. It’s your rest when you’re feeling those sleepless nights. And it’s the most important thing you can do for your children, praying for their salvation, as you create an environment for them to grow.
Well, you might have noticed that these three steps from Romans 12:12 do apply to motherhood, but they are part of the larger passage for all Believers. Because, in order to be the mother you were called to be, you need to first and foremost be a faithful woman of God. One who rejoices in hope, is patient in tribulation, and is constant in prayer. And that is my prayer for you.